Liisa, 33, from Estonia, had been single for a while. She wasn’t desperate — just curious. So when a man named “James” messaged her on a dating app, she replied. His profile was simple but elegant: a clean-shaven smile, suit jacket, and a short bio that read:
“Looking for real connection. No games.”
They clicked instantly. James was respectful, charming, and emotionally present. He never pushed — just listened, shared, and complimented her mind more than her looks.
They moved to WhatsApp. They spoke about travel, childhood, anxiety. James said Liisa was the “first woman in a long time who made him feel like himself.”
Then things turned flirty. Playful selfies turned into teasing, then more revealing photos.
James didn’t send anything in return — just praise and promises.
“You’re incredible. I’ve never opened up like this before.”
One morning, Liisa woke up to a message that made her blood run cold:
“Send €500 or I’ll post everything you sent me — to your friends, your work, your Instagram.”
Attached were screenshots of her contact list, her photos, and a mock-up of a Facebook post.
Liisa froze.
She considered paying. But something inside her resisted. She Googled the situation and found forums full of women who had gone through the same thing — and worse. Many paid. It didn’t stop the threats.
So she made a decision.
She blocked the number. Took screenshots. Reported the account to WhatsApp and her local cybercrime unit. She set all her social media to private, warned her closest friends, and refused to give in to fear.
Nothing was ever posted.
Liisa’s Words:
“They count on your silence and your shame. But the minute I told someone, I started taking my power back.”
Lesson:
Sextortion doesn’t always target men. Women are increasingly being emotionally groomed, not just flattered, then blackmailed. It can feel intimate and romantic — until it turns into psychological warfare.
If someone avoids video, saves your content, and never reciprocates, that’s not love — that’s a setup.